I've been reading a new book recommended by a friend of mine that I happened to come accross at the airport just before my flight back home from Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. I am only just finishing the first chapter but so far I have really enjoyed going on a vicarious journey of self-discovery with the author. I'd like to share my favorite quote from the book (so far, at least). "I will leave with the hope that the expansion of one person-the magnification of one life-is indeed an act of worth in this world. Even if that life, just this one time, happens to be nobody's but my own." For me, my discovery when reading this was that it might, just might, be okay to try to magnify one's life. It just might be okay to take pride (gasp!) in certain aspects of one's self and to not constantly be so self-depricating. For most of you I'm sure, you are thinking, of course, no duh, we know that. But for me, for some reason (which I know but won't share) I have always felt like I needed to downplay (not the best word but I can't think of a better one at the moment) any positives about me and up-play (again, forgive the word choice) any negatives about me (and about my family for that matter). So, for example, when someone gives me a compliment, I immediately tell them why they are seriously mistaken in their compliment and then commence with listing the several reasons why their compliment is completely wrong and unwaranted. This behavior, or thinking error (that one's for you Barry Fell) as the therapist call it, has become such an ingrained habit that until now, I hardly realized I was doing it. And the worst part is, I do it not just with regards to myself, but also to Kade and to my boys. For example, the other day at Costco a woman came up to me and said that Kellin was such a joyful little boy and has such a great outgoing personality. And what did I say in response? "Thank you, I think so too." Nope, not me, instead I replied, "oh gosh, I'm sorry, he bugs people wherever we go. He just loves people and gets too excited, sorry! Kellin, get over here and leave those people alone." I can only imagine what this lady thought about my response, but more importantly, I am sad to imagine what Kellin felt at hearing my response. Because truely, I would rather that lady have walked away possibly thinking that I was proud (and maybe even a little too proud) of my fantastic son than to have Kellin walk away thinking there is something wrong with the way he loves people and is kind and friendly and talkative to anyone and everyone he sees.
So anyways, I went a little far on that tangent, but the gist of it is, for me at least, is that it's ok to strive to magnify your life. It's ok to be proud of your good qualities and it's ok to take a compliment with a simple "thank you, that means a lot" and go about your day enjoying the compliment. So, the next time someone gives me a compliment, I'm going to try it. And maybe even be brave enough to give one in return. Any thoughts?
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Monday, March 3, 2008
New Address
We are moving into our new house this week so I wanted to post our new address in case I missed someone in the emails I sent out. Our new address is:
99 N. Lee Lane
Saint George, UT 84790
I can't believe we are moving this week, it seems like we haven't been here that long and it's actually been almost 2 years. I'm also surprised at how sad I am about moving out of this neighborhood. I really wish we could pick up our new house and plop it right on top of this one. Our rental is just too small for our growing family so we need more space but this neighborhood has been unbelievable. We have seriously loved living here. The neighborhood is filled with kids and Kellin has made some really good friendships with many of them. I know they will still be friends, but it's so nice being close because Kellin can just go right next door or up the street or over to the park and have tons of kids to play with. I am praying that our new neighborhood will be just as fun as this one has. The park has been such a great social catalyst and really the main way we have formed our friendships. It's so nice to go over to the park and sit on the bench and chat with whatever moms are out with their kids too. I know that we will meet people through the ward but I often struggle meeting people that way. It's hard for me to get past the cordialties and actually form a friendship outside of church. That's what I have loved about this neighborhood is that many of our friends aren't even members and it's actually really refreshing to get outside the "mormon culture" and get to know people on a different level. I'm probably going to be stoned for this, but does anyone else relate to what I am saying? Sometimes it seems that when I meet people through a church setting, it's hard to get past the "I'm a perfect person" facade and really get to know them and become real friends. When I think about most of my really close friendships, none of them are people I have met at church, they are friends from work, school, or neighbors, even though many are LDS. It's like that front isn't there in other settings and so it's easier to get to know people. So I'm not saying that LDS people are fake, I'm saying that for some reason when we are in the "church" setting, we sometimes put up a front and that makes it harder to make friends. Anyways, I'm babbling now so I will stop. Curious to hear other thoughts on this.
99 N. Lee Lane
Saint George, UT 84790
I can't believe we are moving this week, it seems like we haven't been here that long and it's actually been almost 2 years. I'm also surprised at how sad I am about moving out of this neighborhood. I really wish we could pick up our new house and plop it right on top of this one. Our rental is just too small for our growing family so we need more space but this neighborhood has been unbelievable. We have seriously loved living here. The neighborhood is filled with kids and Kellin has made some really good friendships with many of them. I know they will still be friends, but it's so nice being close because Kellin can just go right next door or up the street or over to the park and have tons of kids to play with. I am praying that our new neighborhood will be just as fun as this one has. The park has been such a great social catalyst and really the main way we have formed our friendships. It's so nice to go over to the park and sit on the bench and chat with whatever moms are out with their kids too. I know that we will meet people through the ward but I often struggle meeting people that way. It's hard for me to get past the cordialties and actually form a friendship outside of church. That's what I have loved about this neighborhood is that many of our friends aren't even members and it's actually really refreshing to get outside the "mormon culture" and get to know people on a different level. I'm probably going to be stoned for this, but does anyone else relate to what I am saying? Sometimes it seems that when I meet people through a church setting, it's hard to get past the "I'm a perfect person" facade and really get to know them and become real friends. When I think about most of my really close friendships, none of them are people I have met at church, they are friends from work, school, or neighbors, even though many are LDS. It's like that front isn't there in other settings and so it's easier to get to know people. So I'm not saying that LDS people are fake, I'm saying that for some reason when we are in the "church" setting, we sometimes put up a front and that makes it harder to make friends. Anyways, I'm babbling now so I will stop. Curious to hear other thoughts on this.
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